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A life transition can be positive or negative, planned or unexpected.

Some transitions happen without warning, and they may be quite dramatic, as in cases of accidents, death, divorce, job loss, or serious illness. Other life transitions come from positive experiences such as getting married, going away to college, starting a new job, moving to a new city, or giving birth to a child. Even though […]

Managing Difficult Life Transitions

Life is a process of beginnings and endings. In both life and nature, there are times when things move slowly and don’t seem to change very much. Then, suddenly, things change quickly. Moving from August to September, the weather changes gradually at first, and then it seems that suddenly summer is over. It is the […]

Ways Parents Interfere With a Child's Grief

Ways Parents Interfere With a Child’s Grief

1. The parents’ own inability to grieve. 2. The parents’ inability to tolerate the pain of the child and to allow him to mourn (such as denying the child’s feelings and expression). 3. The child’s fear about the parents’ vulnerability and his desire to protect the parent. 4. […]

Suggestions to get your Child/Adolescent moving through Grief

Practical Steps to Managing Grief Emily Dickinson wrote, “If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; if I can ease one life the aching, or cool one pain, or help one fainting robin unto his nest again, I shall not live in vain.” For those readers who are experiencing […]

Grief Recovery Phases for Children/Adolescents

Grief Recovery Phases for Children/Adolescents

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Symptoms of those who are struggling with Grief

A. Suicidal hints (survivor’s guilt, “Why were they killed and my life spared?”).

B. Psychosomatic problems (increase in reports of headaches, stomachaches, orother physical symptoms).

C. Difficulties with school work (concentrating, going to school).

D. Nightmares or sleep disorders […]

Encouraging Your Child to Grieve

Encouraging Your Child to Grieve

1. Specifically give your child permission to mourn. 2. Be there personally for the child. Provide affections and security, and also show support, concern, and acceptance by appropriately physically touching the child. 3. Look for ways to help your child express his/her feelings both verbally and non-verbally. 4. […]

Dealing with the Death of a Child

Dr Dan for Today

Dealing with the Death of a Child

It is said that the worst thing that can befall a parent is the death of their child. It certainly seems to be reflected in the alarmingly high divorce rate among parents who have lost a child. Divorce is not inevitable and […]

Helping your children deal with stress, grief, and trauma

Dr Dan for Today Helping your children deal with stress, grief, and trauma Today’s national tragedy has all of us experiencing a wide range of emotions and concerns. Throughout this paper, minister and counselors have offered their perspective on this tragedy and suggested a course of action for us as adults. Children, too, experience grief, […]

Practical Steps to Managing Grief

By Daniel W. Trathen, D. Min. Ph. D.

TIME: Time alone and time with others whom you trust and who will listen when you need to talk. Months and years of time to feel and understand the feelings that go along with loss.

REST – RELAXATION – EXERCISE – NOURISHMENT – DIVERSION: You may need […]

Healing the Pain of Loss

By Daniel W. Trathen, D. Min. Ph. D.

There are not many of us who have been personally affected by losing a loved one, who can’t remember exactly where we were when we got the news that a famous person or a loved one had passed away. Grief is a normal, natural and appropriate response […]