Dan Trathen DMin, PhD Clinical Psychologist & Certified Business & Life Coach

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Couples Coaching and Intensives

Relationships can be a challenge at times. Starting a love relationship is one thing, maintaining and growing a relationship is another matter. We all have needs and expectations of how we want to be loved. When our expectations are not met we can become hurt, frustrated and angry. These feelings are very real to us. We don’t feel cared for, respected or loved during these times and we can lash out at our partner or store these feelings and look at our partner though an ever increasingly clouded filter. Some of us fall into invalidating each other. Others withdraw and avoid discussing issues.

We all have needs and expectations of how we want to be loved. When our expectations are not met we can become hurt, frustrated and angry. These feelings are very real to us. We don’t feel cared for, respected or loved during these times and we can lash out at our partner or store these feelings and look at our partner though an ever increasingly clouded filter. Some of us fall into invalidating each other. Others withdraw and avoid discussing issues. Frankly, we have learned some unhealthy habits and patterns of relating. As we maintain these negative habits we find that they don’t work and neither does our relationship. We wonder, how we got to such a negative place and how can we get to a better one?  We wonder how we got to such a negative place and how we can get to a better one. Understanding the issues and patterns is a good place to start. If in your relationship you are experiencing any or all of the following 10 issues, call Dr. Dan at 303-593-0575 vm 111 and he will call you back and discuss the next steps with you.

  • Increased disagreements and arguing
  • Periods of prolonged silence
  • Mind reading each other’s intentions
  • Negatively interpreting each other’s words and motives
  • Increased conflict accompanied by diminished efforts to resolve issues
  • Discouragement, disillusionment, and decreased confidence that your relationship will make it
  • A decreased feeling of “safety” to be vulnerable with your partner
  • A fear of being ridiculed privately or publicly
  • A lack of trust, respect and love in your relationship
  • A lack of forgiveness and letting go of relationship issues

 

In order to clarify and lay the necessary groundwork, Dr. Dan Trathen offers individual appointments or a specialized and private mini, one or two day coaching times for a couple who prefers or needs a more intensive, focused coaching experience in a safe environment, while dealing with conflict and learning healthy communication. Couples who are interested in this approach must first call 303-593-0575 vm 111 for an appointment.  Dr. Dan requires that each couple first come in for a 2 hour face–to-face appointment, and assure the couple is a “good fit” for the intensive approach. Couples can have new coaching information and forms emailed to them or can come early enough to fill these forms out in the office.

Not everyone has the availability for a one or two day intensive couple coaching. Dr. Dan also does ¼ or ½ day mini-intensives either in his Parker, Colorado office or through video conferencing, encrypted email, and/or a conference phone option. His video conferencing system allows him to connect couples who are working or living in separate locations on the same screen at the same time using their own computer equipped with a camera and microphone. He can also do follow-up sessions using video-conferencing. Dr. Dan requires a 2 hour appointment in his Parker office before virtual coaching can be negotiated.

With 40 years of experience, Dr. Trathen offers assessment services to first discover a couple’s strengths and growth areas before tailor-making a counseling plan. Dr. Dan focuses on clarifying the issues, designing a specific couple plan to stabilize the relationship in the present, and build a plan for feeding their relationship by building new skills into their interaction before dealing with past issues. Each plan requires the couple to do reading and homework assignments designed to assist them in their growth areas and transform changes into lasting ones. Couple assessments and a family history questionnaire are also used in establishing a Relationship Growth Plan for each couple.

Taking personal responsibility is important in gaining clarity to relationship issues. These beginning steps help to ensure the couple is prepared before they start their mini, full day or two day couple intensive. They also ensure that Dr. Dan has the information he needs ahead of time so everyone is prepared to start couple coaching immediately with planning out the time and focusing on the help needed. These intensives are designed for couples living together, not living together, married or separated. This is a popular couple service and times are limited, so, please call today at 303-593-0575 vm 111 to reserve your couple intensive time and start overcoming the obstacles to a better relationship.