Dan Trathen DMin, PhD Clinical Psychologist & Certified Business & Life Coach

Trusting Hope

Third is trust or having confidence in our beliefs. For example, many have confidence in their abilities to overcome life’s adversities. Others may have a faith in God and therefore are hopeful not only in the outcome, but also in life. Still others may have hope in another person’s abilities to succeed. In other words, […]

Emotional Hope

Second is the emotional aspect. Hopeful individuals evaluate their feelings in light of their anticipated outcome. They have assurance regarding the ability, strength, or genuineness of someone or something. This is not a state of denial, but rather the process of refocusing emotions so they don’t get too far off track. It is common knowledge […]

Man’s search for meaning

In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl wrote that the “loss of hope and courage can have a deadly effect on man.” Winston Churchill is recorded as experiencing this sense of dimmed vision when he said, “I am an old man. I have lived a long time. I have never seen days like […]

The Top 10 of Wise Sayings

I recently came across a “top 10 wisdom list” by Thomas Jefferson. Maybe this list will jog your mind into remembering what your parent, teachers, or grandparents said to you.

1. Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today.


2. Never trouble another for what you can do yourself.


3. Never […]

Wise Words Worth Living

I Can’t Get these Proverbs Out of My Mind

All of us have had teachers we remember for one reason or another. I remember “Mrs. Proverbs”. She would walk down the rows of chairs saying, “an idle mind is the devil’s workshop”, or “busy hands are happy hands”, or “a penny saved is […]

Deflecting Conflict and Insults- Step 3

Step 3 Bring Kindness into Cruelty

Intimidators need to be encouraged to focus their attention inward instead of blaming or ridiculing. This is essential when cutting remarks are an expression of anger. In moments of confusion, people can be redirected to change negative habits.

Deflecting conflicts and insults exercises your mind and can be more […]

Deflecting Conflict and Insults-Step 2

Step 2 Change “Put-Downs” to “Put-Ups”

Change put-downs into put-ups and act as if nothing offensive is happening. This is based on the idea that it is worse to take offense than to give offense. Meanness can be turned into kindness when you:

1. Agree in fact, in theory, or hypothetically to stop power struggles.


Deflecting Conflict and Insults

Step1 Learn Verbal Karate;

Conflict is inevitable, but when you are caught off guard by a verbal side swipe, wounds can cut especially deep. Rude remarks may come from misguided efforts to enhance self-esteem by making others look bad. It may be a cry for attention, or generalized anger that is taken out on […]

Opportunity Starts with Planting a Seed Today

It is the responsibility of each of us to make the most of opportunities. Our future rests as a unfinished sculpture before us. We can sow for a good harvest or sacrifice our future to the passing enjoyments of the present moment. If we sacrifice our future we fail or neglect to recognize the dependence […]

What is my Biblical Identity? (expanded)

Who am I? What is my Biblical Identity?

By Daniel W. Trathen, D. Min. Ph. D.

I am the salt of the earth. Matthew 5:13 -You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt has become tasteless, how will be made salty (again)? It is good for nothing anymore, except to be thrown […]