Dan Trathen DMin, PhD Clinical Psychologist & Certified Business & Life Coach

Healing the Pain of Loss

There are not many of us who have been personally affected by losing a loved one, who can’t remember exactly where we were when we got the news that a famous person or a loved one had passed away. Grief is a normal, natural and appropriate response to loss. There surely is a time to […]

Ways Parents Interfere With a Child's Grief

Ways Parents Interfere With a Child’s Grief

1. The parents’ own inability to grieve. 2. The parents’ inability to tolerate the pain of the child and to allow him to mourn (such as denying the child’s feelings and expression). 3. The child’s fear about the parents’ vulnerability and his desire to protect the parent. 4. […]

Suggestions to get your Child/Adolescent moving through Grief

Practical Steps to Managing Grief Emily Dickinson wrote, “If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; if I can ease one life the aching, or cool one pain, or help one fainting robin unto his nest again, I shall not live in vain.” For those readers who are experiencing […]

Grief Recovery Phases for Children/Adolescents

Grief Recovery Phases for Children/Adolescents


Symptoms of those who are struggling with Grief

A. Suicidal hints (survivor’s guilt, “Why were they killed and my life spared?”).

B. Psychosomatic problems (increase in reports of headaches, stomachaches, orother physical symptoms).

C. Difficulties with school work (concentrating, going to school).

D. Nightmares or sleep disorders […]

Encouraging Your Child to Grieve

Encouraging Your Child to Grieve

1. Specifically give your child permission to mourn. 2. Be there personally for the child. Provide affections and security, and also show support, concern, and acceptance by appropriately physically touching the child. 3. Look for ways to help your child express his/her feelings both verbally and non-verbally. 4. […]