Dan Trathen DMin, PhD Clinical Psychologist & Certified Business & Life Coach

Sex Gone Wild

The fifth is distorting sex. We think of sex as duty or as dirty and use it as a reward or as a punishment. We expect a perfect sexual response, or become inconsiderate and crude with one another and never share tenderness or emotional intimacy without intercourse.

These five negative patterns are signs of erosion […]

Making Problem Solving a Problem

The third is to make a problem out of problem solving. We pick the most inconvenient times possible to discuss problems or bring up an issue which has made us angry when we’re sure our partner doesn’t have time to respond. We overload the conversation with more than one issue until the initial conflict gets […]

Erosion in Marriage

It seems like everything these days is being blamed on El Nino or La Nina. I heard the other day that a couple was blaming their marriage problems on the frequent storms hitting California. Their real relational problems were not revealed, but it seemed that the erosion of their marriage didn’t just happen overnight. Undoubtedly, […]

Man’s search for meaning

In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl wrote that the “loss of hope and courage can have a deadly effect on man.” Winston Churchill is recorded as experiencing this sense of dimmed vision when he said, “I am an old man. I have lived a long time. I have never seen days like […]

Distracting Stress: Give Yourself a Hand

There have been several times in my life when I have been overwhelmed by stressful situations. It has been helpful for me to use a hands-on grounding approach by employing the “Five Finger Exercise” during these times. This exercise is simple and easy to do. Let me explain. As you read this take a look […]

Stress is Toxic

The problem with stress is that it is a physical and emotional reaction to a problem or series of problems that can, when dwelt upon, seem like all of life. When we direct our energies only toward coping with stress, crises and plugging holes our bodies remain in a heighten state. This is very dangerous […]

Corrosion and Stress

Several years ago my travels took me to Greece. I wanted to see for myself some of the “Seven Wonders” of the ancient world which I had read about and studied as a boy. I was interested in seeing the “Acropolis” in Athens, Greece and the “Colossus of Rhodes” on the Greek Island of Rhodes. […]